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Anger, Angry, Bad, Burn, Dangerous       I have learned many skills along the path of my life to help me stay calm and  centred     but every now and again something surfaces that throws any semblance of balance right out of the window. I think when certain sensitive spots are hit, we regress back to early childhood and a tantrum erupts. Sometimes anxiety can create tension leading to anger. Not only does this often wreak havoc in our personal lives it can often have quite dramatic consequences in our professional lives. We often regret things we’ve said and done in a heated exchange and then spend considerable time beating ourselves up for it. Feelings of guilt lower our self esteem and before we know it we are in a downward spiral whereby everything irritates us. We try to suppress the irritation so as not to upset anyone but the energy needed to keep it pushed down and out of site just leads to more and more irritation and frustration. Before you know it, boom! off you go again!

“Anger is a sign that something needs to change” – Mark Epstein

What is anger? where does it come from? and why does it have the ability to boil our blood so much! A face of the ego, anger can come knocking for a variety of reasons. Anger is a sign that you aren’t satisfied with your current situation, whether it be emotionally or psychologically. To be plain, your basic needs are not being met and your ego “I” is letting you know loud and clear that you need to serve yourself a little better. When you realise you are becoming annoyed with a person, take a little time out.   Go and make a cup of tea or have a moment to yourself.  While you are doing that, think what you would like them to do, or not do in order to help the situation.  Nearly always, instead of anger, you will find that there is a request you can make. Make the request in a reasonable manner and most times people will oblige. Be specific, use a neutral tone and keep it brief. Often some small step towards a positive change will make you feel lighter inside and diffuse some of that anger. Trying to tackle a big issue in one go or just going on a rant generally just escalates the problem and changes nothing. Of course more serious issues would probably require outside intervention but for small, everyday irritations that build up, using the above strategies could begin to turn things around. For more help and advice follow the link below,Good luck!


We will all experience a form of anxiety at some point in our lives and during those times it can feel as though we are completely alone.

But it is important to remember that even the stars we see on TV, who appear confident and in control, will still suffer bouts of anxiety.

Celebrities are no exception when it comes to panic attacks. Whether it’s a one-time event or something they consistently struggle with, dealing with a panic attack is never easy — and many celebrities are the first to admit it.

Who else suffers?

Not so long ago Robbie Williams, who is well known for his anxiety, was helping Grammy- winner Adele to overcome her severe stage fright whilst preparing for her first Oscars performance.

The ‘Rolling In The Deep’ songstress  has suffered with terrible stage fright since she was 16, but it became worse than ever as she’d been out of the spot light for some time and needed something to help her with it. Robbie and his wife, Ayda helped her with breathing and relaxation exercises.

Zayn Malik, former member of One Direction, cancelled a show in Dubai due to ‘extreme anxiety’. In a message sent to fans, Malik explained how, while he is learning how to deal with nerves, he didn’t feel comfortable playing a live show.

However, it’s not just stage fright with some famous stars. Below are six celebrities who have suffered from panic attacks:

  • Amanda Seyfried.
  • Lena Dunham.
  • Oprah Winfrey.
  • Emma Stone. …
  • Ellie Goulding.
  • John Mayer.

In a 2012 interview with Rolling Stone, singer/songwriter John Mayer admitted to suffering from panic attacks set off by his fear of ending up in a mental institution.

Actress Amanda Seyfried told a well known magazine that she regularly sees a therapist to cope with her panic attacks.  “I still do get terribly nervous, and that’s partly due to the fact I think too much and overanalyze things,” she said. “I’ll start worrying about my parents or my dog, and I’ll picture him opening the window of my apartment and falling out, even though I can’t get that thing open myself.

During an overwhelming period at work in 2013, even Oprah Winfrey had a panic attack. She was filming Lee Daniels’ “The Butler” alongside doing a number of celebrity interviews.

You are not alone

When you are going through a bad time, remember that you are not alone. You are not the only one who is experiencing these issues, even though it may feel that way. Talking about how you feel and explaining what you are going through can be very helpful, though we understand that you may not feel comfortable talking to a loved one. While everyone may experience anxiety differently, there are steps you can take to reduce symptoms and hypnotherapy can help you to cope when feelings start to reappear, if not get rid of them altogether.

Hypnotherapy for anxiety

Hypnotherapy can be an effective treatment in reducing feelings of anxiety. The process looks to discover the root cause of the problem, then working to change the thoughts and feelings associated with it.

A hypnotherapist can begin to teach you how to regain a sense of control. You will discover how to alter negative or distorted thoughts that may be operating subconsciously using the reframing tool NLP. This will help remove the triggers for your anxiety and replace them with powerful, positive and confident thoughts enabling you to take on new challenges easily.

In trance you can replay stressful situations visually whilst viewing them from an emotionally detached perspective enabling you to gain new insights which help to resolve long standing problems.

I include EFT in many of my sessions, this is a tool which helps to calm the amygdala part of the brain, which keeps us on high alert, and reduces the cortisol(stress hormone) levels in the body.

Mindfulness is also very helpful in reducing mindfulness. For a great free course follow the link